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How to tackle the terrible twos


Anyone dealing with the terrible twos right now?  Cause I sure am!  And with this being my third go around, you think it wouldn't be such an exhaustingly draining thing to deal with as a mom.  But oy vey!  That is so not the case.  If throwing tantrums were and olympic event, Zachary would win the gold medal.  Hands down!  This kid has definitely mastered the art of saying no, throwing shade, giving huge amounts of sass and steamrolling across the floor while simultaneously screaming his lungs out.   I know I should totally be the adult and act all cool and collected when these daily occurrences happen.  But there are so many times when I want to throw in the towel and throw my own kicking and screaming tantrum in the middle of aisle 9 right along with my dear little two year old.


How to tackle the terrible twos

How to tackle the terrible twos

How to tackle the terrible twos

How to tackle the terrible twos


How to tackle the terrible twos

How to tackle the terrible twos

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How to tackle the terrible twos

How to tackle the terrible twos


Recently, I heard another mom refer to her three year old daughter as a "threenager" and I couldn't help but laugh because she was so spot on!  This mom business is seriously no joke when it comes to the terrible twos!  This phase of life can last up till your child is almost five, and it definitely pushes you to the brink and shows you what you're made of.  Which I have a fierce love and hate relationship with!  

So to keep myself sane during the moments when the terrible twos are in full force, I have been trying really hard to take a deep breath and not take it too personally.  But it is still so hard!  Especially when Zachary (or even Emi at times) has one of his "special moments" when we are out in public and people give me THAT look.  You know, the one that says, "Geez lady!  Control your child!"  Sometimes when this happens I just wanna look at those people and say, "By all means, if you have a better idea, I'd love for you to step in!"  I swear, some people really just don't get it because they either have mild children, no children, or have finished raising their children and have completely forgotten what this phase of life is really like!  

Take the other day for example...

Yesterday, my mother-in-law invited all the moms and cousins to go to Red Butte Gardens (this amazing nature venue in Salt Lake City, UT).  Everything was going great with Zachary and we had been tantrum free for the whole afternoon until we got the the rose garden exhibit and Zachary decided to pick a rose.  My mother-in-law nicely, and really do mean nicely, told Zachary not pick the flowers and that was it.  

Zachary chucked the flower he had just picked, across the garden path, and started screaming at the top of his lungs as he threw himself to the ground; becoming instant road kill for all the other visitors there who made sure to take in the spectacle before stepping over Zachary and moving on.  I, of course, was absolutely mortified and tried with all my might to pick Zachary up.  But he just wasn't having it!  So I took a step back to assess the chaos and instantly started laughing because the whole thing was really quite the roadside attraction!  I'm sure the other garden visitors got quite the surprise when they stumbled upon a frazzled and sweaty my who was trying to peel her thrashing and wailing two year old up off the pathway while her two older children ran in circles around her like wild people.  Ha ha!   Please tell me you have all been here at some point in your life!

After taking a moment to cool off and get in a good mental place again, I walked back over to Zachary, used my jedi-like mom skills I could muster and got Zachary to focus his attention on a nearby butterfly just long enough for me to scoop him up off the gravel path and simultaneously yell at Isaac and Emi to stop running around like crazy people.  and quickly scooped him up into my arms and off the gravel path so that he was no longer baby tantrum road kill.  And just like that, Zachary's tantrum was over and order had been restored to our little family outing.  Ha ha!

Luckily, that was the only tantrum Zachary threw while we were there and everything was back to normal until Emi decided to jumped in the driver's seat of an unattended garden maintenance vehicle and almost drove it right into a stone wall.  But...that's a story for another day!  Until then, if you want to read more about what it's like raising an independent daughter who never takes, "No." for an answer, you can read more here.  


Hope you all have a wonderful weekend that is filled with millions of butterflies and zero tantrums!




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  1. Going through the exact same thing as you. It's my least favorite thing about motherhood thus far. Really breaks my spirit at times. My son is only 19 months. Hopefully, since it started earlier than 2 it will be over faster??????? :)

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    1. I am so sorry Andi! And I am right there with you! I really feel like the phase of life forces you to dig down deep and discover who you really are as a mom. Hang in there! Because, like you said, it will one day end. Sending lots of love your way!

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