creating a strong relationship with your daughter

The other day, someone asked me how many kids I had.  I told them, "Three boys and one girl."  Thinking our conversation was going to move forward with them commenting on how busy things must be with three young boys, I was really surprised when they responded with, "Well, then I guess that means you're going to have to have another baby because your daughter needs a sister!"

At first, I was a little taken aback, because I've never really found myself in a position where someone adamantly told me what they thought I should be doing with the number of children I chose to have.  But, as I talked to them, I began to understand the point they were making because I have two sisters and couldn't imagine my life without them!

Having fun raising a daughter

Mother-Daughter relationship bonding

However, at this particular moment, I don't see myself having any more children in the foreseeable future.  For now, I feel like I'm done.  And I'm totally O.K. with how my family dynamic currently stands.  

With that being said, I know there is a greater responsibility on my end when it comes to raising my daughter Emi; because I am the only other female in our home who she can confide in, do girly things with, and learn from.  And as excited as I am about that, I also get extremely nervous because I know the strength of our mother-daughter relationship will only be as good as the time and energy I put into it!

creating a strong relationship with your daughter

Since the day I became pregnant with Emi, I have felt deeply connected to her.  Something that probably has to do with how similar we are.  Especially when it comes to our personalities.  I can't tell you how many times my mom will see or hear about something emi has recently done and reply by saying, "You used to do the exact same thing!"

In a way, having a daughter who works the same way I do, is absolutely amazing because, for a majority of the time, I know almost exactly what she is thinking and feeling; making certain parenting moments so much easier.  However, I have also found this to be a HUGE hurdle because neither of us are willing to cave in or surrender when it comes to certain things.  And I can't even begin tell you how many times Emi has told me she didn't have to listen because she was the boss or that she was Queen of the house!  Haha!

developing a mother daughter relationship

But, at the end of the day, I love raising a daughter who thinks and feels just like I do because it has really allowed Emi and I to form an incredible mother-daughter relationship.

So, if you too are (or will be) raising a daughter and are constantly looking for ways to strengthen your mother-daughter relationship, here are five of my favorite things to remember and do...

picking flowers: developing your mother daughter relationship

How to Create a Strong Relationship with Your Daughter

1) Work out problems quickly.

2) Spend quality one-on-one time with your daughter on a daily basis.

3) Give your daughter opportunities to be part of the things you do (i.e. taking care of younger siblings, running errands, hobbies, etc.).

4) Don't be stingy with your hugs, kisses, and words of praise.

5) Never forget that you'll be your daughter's first role model, friend, and love.  So live your life in such a way that your daughter would be proud to be just like you when she grows up.


P.S. In an ideal world, Emi and I would dress like this every day.  Haha!

Emi's dress: Potato Bug Shop

Photography:  Roxana B. Photography


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