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My living room as of two pm yesterday. No filter.

I'm going to get real with you guys. I see pictures, countless pictures, of homes and lives perfect in every way. The walls of these homes are carefully chosen shades of white and gray. The furniture is made from deep rich woods or painted stark white. The occasional piece is a bright pop of color. Every accent is purposefully arranged so your eye flows across the room gazing upon the splendor without a seam. The people who live in these homes have the hair of the gods and clothes from tomorrows Gap catalog.

 
You might know these people. You may even be one of them. On Instagram your pictures fill my explore page. And as I have entered the world of blogging and designing and this culture of internet self-promotion, I see the beauty these people are trying to portray. I have also felt the pressure to imitate them.
 
As a blogger I have been told that pictures are 90 percent of blogging. Here at The Mumsy Blog, we have a certain standard when we choose pictures to share. We do believe that we should be honest and try to do so sincerely through our writing. But I feel like I haven't been real enough through my pictures. So today I want to share my real world.
 
Keeping It Real: This Bloggers REAL Life
 
Maybe for some bloggers, that world of perfection is real. But for me, it is not. Behind every post is a potential tantrum, mess made, or Pinterest fail. For example, here is the picture from our fourth of July recap. My baby girl looks beautiful and happily smiling. The photo well lit. What I didn't share, is the photo on the right, my little peanut totally photo bombing and screaming for my attention. Haha. As I scanned old photos I noticed this little guy popping up all over the place. Photo bombing level = expert. 

Photos I normally don't share, but probably will start sharing more often. Why not?
I'm going to be real with you. Most of my posts require bribing, coaxing, kisses, and lots and lots of photos. That beautiful photo on the left didn't just happen magically and sadly, not organically. You know how photos of my crafts usually are well lit and on a lovely white background like this one? Yeah, I am sitting next to window holding a foam board.
 
For those who live in those magazine 3,500+ square foot homes, I say congrats and that's awesome. But, let's be real, most people do not . Most young mommy's my age are living in apartments or like me, small three bedroom homes. And guess, what? I love my home, I love writing and creating in my home, and I make it work. We have beautiful messy chaotic memories made every day in my home. So I cherish my small 1,400 sq foot imperfectly decorated home. I know many successful bloggers living in quaint homes and that's real.

LEFT: My son screaming, "I don't want a picture." RIGHT: A decent version of my living room. It's usually even messier.
And on that note, you should know that my home is messy constantly. Recently, I had a few beautiful women come to my home that I have met through blogging. They witnessed the chaos that is my living space and filth that comes from four kids, a busy mom, and too little time. And it's ok with me because that's my reality and time of life. And all you should know this despite the clean pictures I post on the blog. Many people ask me how I do all that I do. Now you know, I have a messy home, and that's me being real with you.
 
On another occasion a few months back I bumped into some fantasticly successful bloggers and writers at Chic-Fil-A. Was I perfectly trendy with coordinated children calmly clinging to my wrist? Come on, let's be real, I was wearing my morning workout clothes and probably smelled ahhmazing. My children were chicken-eating rag-a-muffins running around like chickens with their heads cut off. The ladies were so friendly to me regardless. But after that day I started thinking about how I should have dressed differently or had my children more perfectly coordinated. And then I rethought. Those bloggers didn't care, why should I? And even if they did care, why should I? That's me and it's real. Many of you have probably seen me in this state, workout attire and no makeup. And there's nothing wrong with that. It's just the real me. Some bloggers might always look absolutely stylish and their children obedient and poised. For me, let's be real, this is far from my reality.
 
 

So the next time you scroll through blogs online gazing upon the magnificence of another's "life", know there's probably a tantrum, a dirty room, loads of money, and unnatural amounts of time behind that photo. We all cry at times, have stresses, and bad days. Many of us choose not share it. And that's ok.
 
But internet, don't compare your lives to someone's best pictures, especially bloggers. Be you and live life. Please, never believe that because I'm not sharing some of my surroundings which include whining, screaming children, chaos, thrown items, missed deadlines, sorrow, and awfully composed pictures, know that it does still happen. Every darn day, actually. And that's this bloggers REAL life. Love for you all. We are all doing our best, helping each other, and those are the important things. Have a great rest of the week.
 
 
 
Have you read our other Keepin' It Real Posts? If not here they are:
 
 
 

12 comments

  1. And this right here is why I love you guys! You both are so real and normal! I feel like I can relate to you guys.

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    1. Thanks Ashley!! We love you too! Playdate soon?

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  2. One of my favorite posts! Love you Natashia

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    1. Thanks so much Rebekah! That really means a lot.

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  3. Loved this post. A very refreshing read. Thanks for the honesty! I feel a little better now! Haha.

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    1. Cody, I'm so glad you liked it. It was kinda scary to out it all out there. WE are all just trying to get to the next day.

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  4. That was the best blog!!! Let's get real and give ourselves a break. Hats off to Mumsy!

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    1. Thanks so much!! I love how you said give ourselves a break. It is so true!!

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  5. I love you!! Thank you so much for being open and real. I honestly really needed to read this today, I've been struggling with feeling inadequate and even started crying in a store like a crazy person haha but reading this made me feel so much better. xoxo.

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    1. Oh lady I have been there so many times. And the longer I blog the more I feel like I need to share what I did so you know that I have my bad days too.

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