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Hey there mommas, women, and all those who have come to our site today. I am really excited about today's post. But before sharing our new button, I wanna explain the motivation behind it.
I was sitting at a playgroup recently. Kids were playing and moms were talking, you know, the norm. Then one momma asked the group about a parenting question, and what happened next was inspiring. We all chimed in with what we had heard or experienced trying our best to help this mommy. This happens often when women come together, right? We help each other and try to share what we have learned through this crazy ride. And I realized that we needed something like this here at Mumsy.
Life is hecka hard! I do not know a single person who has a life without problems. And even our vision acknowledges that, "Motherhood isn't easy.... that is exactly why we created Mumsy.  A place that not only celebrates motherhood but also strives to help every current, soon-to-be, or well seasoned mother find enjoyment in the role she was born to play." The posts we write are meant to help, not hinder and with each one we try to share what we have learned so far here at Mumsy. But, we definitely DO NOT know everything about womanhood or mommyhood. In fact, many of you reading this have taught me a thing or two.
I was reflecting recently on all the woman who have helped shape who I am today. The women in my family are obvious examples. And there are so many other women in my life who have been examples of humility in success, making time for your dream, thinking deeper, being educated, and having integrity. We influence each other sometimes without even knowing it. Other times we have the opportunity to directly influence and help each other for good. Being at this playgroup was an example where woman came together to strengthen another. We need each other as women. We are all trying and failing, and succeeding, and kinda going crazy. So today we are introducing our " Ask A Mum" section!

Ask A Mum 

Here's how it works:

 If you have a question about life, parenting, relationships, or anything simply type it in the form on the right column under the "Ask A Mum" section. We will try to repost the question ASAP.

 When we post the question from one of you, the ladies of Mumsy will try to answer the question the best we can and also ask other moms to share their wisdom and experience. WE encourage you all to comment with your thoughts.  
 We can't wait to hear from all of you. As you answer questions we ask that you try to please be kind and considerate. Mumsy is a place of positivity, so please share your experiences and have respect for those who may feel opposite. Our lives are different and what worked for you may not work for another. This is why we need your help answering the questions. What worked for us may not be the answer. So please help a momma out and comment below.  



Life is much easier with support and help. So let's be friends. Let's help and lift each other. We all are trying our best. But it doesn't hurt to hear another's perspective or try something new. We don't have to go through struggles alone. I know I would love to hear some of your wisdom. So today I need your help to answer my question. Help me out by commenting below with your thoughts. Much love!

 

17 comments

  1. I think as long as you are trying your best with kids and all you're doing fine. Having realistic expectations is key.

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    1. Thank you!! I appreciate the perspective!

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  2. I've just had to force myself to put things away when we're done (even if you get it out again later), and to be okay with some messiness. Also, try to find furniture that has lots of good storage space and then you can hide a lot of stuff too.

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    1. I've been learning this. It is hard to make new habits. But I appreciate hearing that this has worked for you, it motivates me to change my habits.

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  3. Sometimes I think the chores that come with being a stay at home mom resemble the Greek myth of Sisyphus. The man who is condemned to roll a bolder up a hill every day just to watch it roll back down again. It's easy to see how it could feel like a punishment, but in the scenario of motherhood that's not what the daily tasks are meant to be. I don't believe. It's not about perfection everyday. It's not about finally achieving whatever you're looking for. It's about the journey and the strength, knowledge, courage, faith, trust, beauty... whatever you receive from constantly working on something, often the same thing over and over again. Frankly, though, when I'm rich enough I'm going to hire a personal organizer... in the mean time I'll just keep trying my best, because at this point it's all I got. :)

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    1. Pushing the rock up the hill and having it roll is exactly how I feel!

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    2. But I do appreciate what you said about learning from the journey. You are so profound!

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  4. I have been thinking about this a lot recently, because I often feel the same way. I also feel bad for my kids that so much of their summer has been doing chores/cleaning the house. At the same time, I just can't keep up with it all. I know that there are some mothers/parents out there with more children/less time/bigger houses etc. etc etc. who manage to keep a clean and tidy home despite the kids. And I wonder if it's a philosophy thing (because of the kids they can keep a tidy home?) or a training thing (you put away what you are playing with before you get anything else out). I do know that my kids are not the only source of the problem though. Identifying that has probably made the most difference recently. Recognizing that my example and my tendencies do influence my children, maybe even more than anything I say. So in the past little while I have been trying to change my habits, those awful habits of holding onto things, collecting things, not taking care of things the first time. And I have slowly started reducing the number of toys in our home. It hasn't been life changing yet, but it is making a small difference. I am taking it a day at a time, and doing what I can. And then letting go of the negative, or at least trying to. It's a journey. Bethany

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    1. Bethany, I really appreciate your thoughts! It's really hard because I don't want to spend all summer cleaning like you said.

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    2. I also really like how you pointed out that we can change our habits. I'm working on that right now as well as getting rid of toys as well.

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  5. I finally learned, after many years, what it means "it will be there tomorrow." I wanted it done today and didn't want to do it it tomorrow, so i often placed cleaning as a priority over fun with the kids. There will come a day when the house will be spotless and you haven't even had to sweep for a month, and you will wish for the days when there was chaos and things to clean because it meant there was lots of love in the house. So, my thought is to enjoy the chaos and just do little things here and there.
    Diane R.

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    1. Thanks Diane. That makes me feel better. I love playing and having fun with my kids because I know the years will go so fast. That's why we are often hiking or playing. I just wish my house stayed magically clean while we had the fun. Haha.

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  6. We have rules. One is only one toy at a time, clean up before you get out another one. Also, if they were playing in their room then I'd say they have to clean up before moving onto the next thing. In other areas of the house, it's a balance between knowing which areas need to be clean (I prioritize certain areas and spend more time cleaning there), and then managing other areas by doing small things daily to keep them clean. I do have to be realistic with myself and sometimes I'm just too exhausted to clean! But fortunately for me, dh loves to clean too and will help when I need it.

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    1. I've been working on getting my dh to help more around the house and that is helping a ton! Thanks for sharing your rules. It's hard for me because each kid will have out a certain toy and sometimes they like to play with multiple sets at once such as the cars and legos so they can make a race track out of legos and race the cars. But for me its hard to stay organized. Luckily we just added the attic entrance for storage so maybe my world wont be so crazy after I get everything up there.

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  7. I have tried to adopt the clean enough mentality. It's not perfect but its clean enough. The counters got wiped off, the sheets got changed but heck please don't open the avalanche closet or lick the floor. I used to be a perfectionist and it was paralyzing because I thought if I couldn't do things perfectly then why do them at all. I try to remind myself when I clean that I am not cleaning for the QUEEN to come! I am doing what I can. Everything we do blesses our families. If I really need to motivate sometimes I will start a timer and turn on some music. Its amazing what 15 min can do.

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    1. Thanks for your thoughts. I have definitely adapted that mentality. Also I really like the 15 min idea. I will try that, TODAY! Thank you for your thoughts.

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  8. We did a clean up before nap and again before bed. My kids (4 boys +1 girl) wanted to play near where I was until they got quite a bit older. So the kitchen floor had things scattered-measuring cups, spoons, etc. While sewing we had a blanket on the floor with buttons and measuring cups out. The living room had toys around if I was in there. I always thought a house without some toys out was odd. Like, surely those people don't have children! But yeah, night time, big cleanup-just tossing things back into a bin or drawers or whatever (not major sorting-that happened once in a while). I didn't worry much about bedrooms-no pinterest pictures taken in those days! I figured that's why there were door to close! Again, we'd do periodic cleanup and sorting of bedroom. Better to be happy than to be tidy. And then you get to be older and the kids are gone and you can enjoy a spic and span house if you want to (until the grandkids come to visit-then it's back to cleanup at the end.) But my stuff-I put away what get out, unless it's a long running project that I'm leaving out. Christine

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